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    Whatcha drinkin'?

    Coffee, too much coffee - wish I could drink alcohol but I just can't
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    Football Pickems

    Random nonsensical results work in my favour as I make random nonsensical choices. I am beating you and @Timberwolfthe first time ever 🤣
  3. I'm listening to my aircon... I just wanted to start this thread for a friend
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    Word association

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    What are you reading at the moment?

    I'm reading 'The Way of the Shaman' by Michael Harner
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    Pimp your NL blog

    Do you have a blog at the Northlands - promote it here? I have just started a new blog called "Rattlepapanna" - it is an audio blog and I made my first post today. It's a bit long sorry - I will ramble less next time.
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    Pineapple on Pizza

    Soulmate. Knew it. ^
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    Playing Hockey

    Oo a blog post - lovely. I love you number 16 ❤️
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    What made you sad?

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    Hey Spy.

    Lol, I am sure we could squeeze you in somewhere
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    Football Pickems

    yay!! Thank you Spy
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    The NL Avie Store

    I will add it to my list. ❤️
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    The NL Avie Store

    Oo makes me want to read them @Forest Mage she looks like a cool character. Nice paw.
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    The NL Avie Store

    I really like the steampunk look at the moment
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    The NL Avie Store

    Wow. I love these pics @Forest Mage
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    chapter length

    Nice to see you back @Lightningfall, personally I would prefer a long one any day. But like you I do enjoy short punchy chapters.
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    What made you happy today?

    Divine intervention from and angel in a t-shirt tux bringing the message 'Love your peoples, people'! Love you Northlanders ❤️
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    Football Pickems

    Thank you Spy! @Spyder I think I might be less shit this year.
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    Hey Spy.

    Perhaps in an alternate universe the 3 of us are living together in polyamorous bliss. Alt-Kent is probably making us mojitos and rubbing our feet as you read this (also, in our alternate universe I can drink lots of alcohol without vomiting).
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    Hey Spy.

    Good for burning peasants tho ❤️
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    Hey Spy.

    guess we are both still carrying that torch eh @fox
  22. Ok please be gentle with me. This is the only place I dare post this and it is definitely controversial but I have to express myself or I will go crazy. Before I say anything let me make the following clear: Harvey Weinstein is predator and his behaviour was despicable I feel terrible for any woman who suffered sexual abuse or harassment at the hands of a man. If it was you I am sorry that happened to you and wish we lived in a world where it was unheard of. However I am really struggling with the #metoo hashtag campaign. I can see why it is possibly needed but I wish it was different. Very briefly (there is a lot I can say but I will try to stay focussed) this is why: Some of the worst sexual harassment I have witnessed in my own organisation was a male upper manager harassing a male senior teacher. When the senior teacher complained about it the upper management closed ranks and the senior teacher lost his job through 'restructuring'. (For the record I was his second / witness through the whole process, the Senior Teacher was actually disciplined for being homophobic). I have also heard a case of a female upper manager propositioning a male junior staff member, as well as a male manager propositioning a female staff member. In both cases the junior staff member rebuffed the advances and the story ended. However in the case of the male manager he lost his job in a re-organisation exercise a year later which was ostensibly unrelated. Among the people I know I have known men and women who suffered sexual abuse at the hands of men, the most distressing case I know of personally happened a young boy and was committed by an older boy. In the Hollywood-type abuses cases although I do not blame the victims neither do I blame only the perpetrators. Powerful men have been allowed to evolve in a culture that was co-created by men and women. Blind eyes were turned by just as many Meryl Streeps as Ben Afflecks (despite the butter wouldn't melt in her mouth attitude now). I do not accept the narrative of the patriarchy. When I was a kid I pulled the legs of insects and burned ants with my magnifying glass like a boy. I am capable of taking advantage to someone weaker than me, I bullied people at school (I was also bullied), as a teenager I pursued (unsuccessfully) older married men with far more passion than boys my own age, if I had been a rock star I would have fucked groupies, if I had been a female Harvey I may have asked Ryan Gosling to watch me shower. This trait is not gender based, it is just a streak you have and you learn to control (or not). In summary, cruelty is natural but we do not have to accept it. However we can only fight it is we take joint responsibility of the culture that enabled it. Abuse and harassment happens to men and women, and if the perpetrators are mostly men it is because they have the power - give more power to women and we will abuse it too. The current #metoo campaign is trying to make men monsters and the world is just not that black and white.
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    Welcome RavenBelladonna

    Hello @RavenBelladonna not sure if you are a new friend or an old friend with a new name - but you are most welcome
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    on the default theme? nice innit? ❤️
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    What are you reading at the moment?

    After a conversation earlier I am reading 'Domination and Submission: The BDSM relationship handbook' which is very similar to the journey you are on maybe