All I can say is sometimes, want is more powerful than need. I need to go to work to pay my bills. I want to live in Thailand because I love it. I could live in the States where I would make more money, but I want to live in Thailand. Wanting is a choice. Need, there is no choice. Being able to choose is an incredible thing. Being chosen can be even more powerful. If I am chosen, I feel honored. That means I am special. Your friends choose to hang out with you, so they are saying that you are special, that’s why they chose you.
Just my opinion though.