Kenai

Playing splatoon 2 with my favorite human.  

Do I still have time to join? I've been out this past week and didn't check NL.

hello!  Glad to see you guys back  

Very true! I can do this!  

I need to lose the weight for health reasons.  So I'm determined.  Problem is.. food is so good!

I would be interested!

I feel this.  Highest was 200, got down to 125.  Plague hit and I stress ate back up to 155.  So mad at myself.    

 

I have a date tomorrow!  It's my third date with a lovely gal named Andrea.  

I am a bit excited.

I've been staring at this post for a while.  Life is being cunty over here, and I am so tired of typing it all out. But I'm going to.  Warning: its long and dramatic.

So around the start of the month, jerk that I married (short form jerk, and trust me, he's earned the moniker) punched the kiddo in the jaw.  He of course claims both that he didn't do it, it was an accident and it was only a light tap.  Jarek has been adamant that he did. 

I told chuck to leave, he refused. I told him fine, whatever. I need space, J and I are going to hotel while I think.  (at this point I wasn't sure if it was an accident or not.)  He again refused.  But he agreed to take me to the library for a few hours so I could run around and watch J there while he stays at home. 

I agree, and once he leaves I immediately called my friend.  Told her "hey.. you know that phone call I promised to make if I ever felt in danger?  This is it."

She was at the library in like ten minutes and had already arranged with the domestic violence people in town to get me in a hotel. 

Stayed there for two nights and then called chuck.  Told him if he left the house voluntarily while I tried to get into a shelter, I wouldn't have to do a protective order.  He agreed, so I went home with Jarek.

For everyone screaming at me "DON"T TAKE HIS WORD", you were right.  He showed up that night, TWICE.  So I filed the request for a protection order.  Judge granted a temp one until the hearing.  The next day, while we were waiting for it to be served, he showed up again and tried to break down the door.

Next ten days were uneventful.  I turned down the shelter because I wanted to keep J in school and the closest one was an hour away.  (Stupid mistake in hindsight I suppose). court hearing comes up, and the judge denies it because it wasn't imminent harm, and he equated a punch to the face to a six year old to a spanking. 

went back to the hotel because chuck refused to stay out of the house.  That didn't last long.  The virus news was getting worse, there were a lot of travelers going in and out.. and jarek's a runner right next to the highway.  I went back to the house the day I chased Jarek down the very busy streets 5 times in less than three hours. 

I'm watching Chuck like a hawk, and I have an interview with the housing board on the 24th.  They're optimistic they can get me in an apartment by the 1st.  It's just a matter of lasting until then.

we're paying an extra month at the old place because we took too damned long to move out.  But other than that, okay. 

Ha, he rejected my bribe.  The jerk.

We're working on getting settled. We've been here half a month already. 

It's an older house, but I really like that.  It has character.

*shrugs* I try to be nice as often as I can.  If others are mean or rude, that is on them.  I can only answer for myself.

Found a house to rent that is both cheaper than the current apartment as well as a larger size. So i'm kinda stoked.  And by kinda, I mean really stoked.

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Lately I've been playing my time at portia.  And Farm together.  I might be a bit obsessed with farming games. 

I found some workout videos on youtube that work well for me.  It took a bit of hunting, but I found them!  I can't do anything that involves jumping or things that involve moving my head extensively (pushups and sit ups are out) because it messes with my head too much. 

I do the ten minute video every two hours. 

I completely forgot about checking here for my birthday!  A rather belated thank you for the birthday wishes.

so the weather here is getting to the point where outside isn't happening very often.  Stupid high wind gusts.

So I've made a new goal of every hour, I'm active for at least ten minutes.  It varies between cleaning spurts, dance parties with Jarek, or just good old playing with an active toddler.   It's been working decent. I just did the dance party idea for the first time today and my brain is regretting it a bit.  >.>  (set off a dizzy spell)

Maintaining happens sometimes.  *hugs*

On 10/17/2017 at 7:55 PM, Phoenix said:

I've heard of the film. I think I've unconsciously avoided it because the red pill subreddit has such an awful reputation.

You should watch it.  I hate the red pill subreddit because its vile, but the movie is brilliant. 

If I remember correctly, they make a comment about how their movement has been hurt by a lot of nastiness.. In my own opinion, they were referring to the subreddit.

I'm still interested! Please, tell us more.

But you tried. 

*hugs*

I know you're probably too upset for my annoying optimism,   But I'm still proud of you for trying rather than just immediately saying "Nope, can't do it."

Is your avatar from the coming out on top game?

Also, welcome!

The problem is its acceptable for women to admit to being victimized because its okay for women to be vulnerable.

Men are mocked and stigmatized if they say "hey, I was sexually harassed/molested".  Interesting fact:  out of all the domestic violence shelters in the united states, there is only ONE for men.  It opened in Arkansas of this year.  THIS YEAR.

Out of the existing shelters, only 8 percent are open to both men and women.  The rest are women only.

So male and female are all equal now, or at least pretty close*, yet there is no support for male victims. 

**speaking for the united states only

Everything made me happy today.

I stayed under my calorie goals.  The kid was extra sweet and cuddly today. 

You have so much love for those cats Pyro. It's something I've always admired about you.  It takes a lot of strength to love an animal and then to give them up to their forever home. 

It probably doesn't help the grief now, I just wanted to say it.